!!!!!Rape Culture!!!!!

 

Ok this blog is about rape culture. I will explain the views of the sociological and my views about it. So here we go. Anyway the sociological stand point view of the alleged “rape culture”, first of we look at the socialization agents and we ask ourselves are they to blame, is all of society, or certain sectors of society? Who do we point the finger at? Who is to blame for this heinous crime? Well in my mind I would blame the agents of socialization, because if the child doesn’t get taught right from wrong, and how to understand the word no, and they get to run wild to do as they please, well then I will blame the parents because they need to socialize their kids with the knowledge of the when to back off and take no for an answer.

                Like the Steubenville rape case, where two high school boys raped a girl that was seriously intoxicated to the point where she couldn’t talk, walk or even act on her own behave, that’s gets to the point let’s say you were at that party and you witnessed this going on, would you stop and think what that poor girl is going through? How it will affect her from there on out? Would you act on her behave to do what’s right? Well those are good questions to ask yourself if you would do something. But in her case only one person spoke out but immediately got silenced because it was that person alone that stood up for that girl while the rest of the people attending that party were for it. This is one of the saddest most heinous things a person can do.

Now on to another subject, military sexual harassment/ rape, it’s been going on for years sure the person who had done the raping got court marshaled and dishonor discharged from the service, but yet it still goes on and in some cases it doesn’t get documented because the person who was raped is to traumatized to say anything in fear of their assailant would attack again, and this time it probably be worse for the victim so rarely does the victim report it to the authorities.

Now on to my opinion. In my own opinion, people are lazy, and as soon as the crime is done and they’re the witness and they could’ve done something to help the victim but yet they choose to keep their distance and rarely ever come to the aid of the person who is in dire need for help. Which in my mind is horrible, why wouldn’t you show some kindness and love instead of showing the careless and don’t give a crap about the other person attitude that everyone so apparently has. Which annoys me to shreds, I mean if I were the bi-standard  I would most defiantly have done something to help, even if I got myself hurt or insanely worse “killed”, that’s the way I would want because at least the victim would’ve had time to escape to safety.

Now I will answer in my opinion on who is to blame for this messed up diabolical world those we so inhabit. I say the blame is spread out to the agents of socialization, society, why because the “agents” should at least teach the child from an earlier age the difference from right and wrong, and also the blame goes to certain sectors of society, because some parts of society have a lot of influence towards younger people who are extremely impressionable towards older people I think the phrase goes “monkey sees monkey do”. So if the younger child sees someone getting sexually molested it will certainly traumatize he/she at an early age, but again I’ll say it might not always have the same effect on that child as it would another child at an young age, some might grow up to be someone who acts against rape, or the he/she might more than likely will turn out to be a whole new species of serial rapist. So if that happens he/she might take it to the next level and turn into a serial killer that rapes his/her victims then kills their victim after they feel the emotional release.

Me Project!!!! Part two!

In this blog I will be talking about birth order parental characteristics, the cultural environment, and heredity, so first off I will be talking about my birth order in what characteristics I have developed, in my young but still adapting life, and how my attitude has affected my life and others around me. Then I will tell you about my parental characteristics, which in turn means my mother and father, then I’ll be explaining about my cultural environment, then finally I will be telling you about my heredity of my genetic makeup and my nirvana of my life.

In my family I am the youngest, out of four kids. So they say that the youngest has the following characteristics comical/entertaining, highly social, laid back attitude, dependent, creative, unconventional, few expectations of self, risk takers. Well in my case I am the following, risk taker, creative, can be laid back (but also have an extreme aggressor side) which by aggressor I mean I’m can be extremely unpredictable like a snake. The oldest in my family is my brother Darryn who by all means is successful at what he does but is he all the same as the social norm as responsible, conservative, doesn’t make waves, follows parents’ wishes, emotionally intense, authoritarian, perfectionist, driven, surrogate parent, leadership material. This I disagree with because he isn’t a parent, he isn’t leadership material, isn’t a perfectionist, well I can trash him in a lot of ways but that’s not what this blogs about, this blogs about me.

My parental characteristics include my mother and father (note I know, but at the same time do not know my father) my mother is strict but fare easy going but at the same time harsh. My father (of what I know of him) he wasn’t much of a dad to me, for example he didn’t know who I was a few years ago at my grandmother’s funeral, to this day he hasn’t nor want contact with me, so I guess I can freely say this without guilt that he is a complete “jerk”. So I guess how they influence me is because I learned from my mother to be fair and strict, fun loving, but at the same time be slightly harsh as to establish respect and order among my children. What I learned from my father well nothing, but a very important lesson, which is always be there for my kids, and never neglect nor abandon them. As for religion goes in my family, well my mother’s not religious nor am I, my “father” I guess is catholic, but as for the rest of my family I really don’t know, that’s for them to decide.

My cultural environment (genetic makeup, nirvana) my mother is from England, her mother is half Italian and British, my grandfather is angle Saxon,  my father is German and Norwegian, so I ended up with the genetically some of the most hot headed genes, so my nirvana is I have the tendency to be a bit of a jerk. So my cultural environment is Italian and Saxon, German and Norwegian, but is ended up with the Italian and Saxon temper, the German and Norwegian old sadistic side.

My heredity I took after my mom’s side  tall, well built, white skin, then I got a little of my father’s side green eyes, brown hair, my mother is smart, has an average IQ, so I fit in somewhere in between there. So I have both apparent genetics of both of my parents, but somehow I don’t really fit in with my family structure, since I am the youngest in my family, so automatically I have the rare gene to be extremely reckless, and have knack for taking risks that shorten my life, so I guess I’m “enigmatic” compared to my brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, and cousins.  But that’s who I am I love taking risks, and being insanely reckless, it brings me selfless joy and peace with myself.

My conclusion is which one of these four topics is more important to me, birth order, because without my being last in the line, I wouldn’t be a risk taker, I wouldn’t be reckless, I wouldn’t be who I am today if I was born first of second of third, so I’m happy because of it, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. So forth I have told you about my birth order, my parental characteristics, my cultural environment, and my heredity, and how they all affect the person who I am, and the person that I will continue to be forever more. And there’s nothing or no one I’d rather be if I couldn’t be me, so when people try and they try a lot to change the person I have become, I just smile and say “I am who I am and there’s no changing the fact that no matter how hard you try you can never be me, so count yourself lucky sucker because my life would only scare you to death”. When this is said and done I walk away and say no more happy and content with the fact that there’s no changing what can’t be changed, so the very word that would best describe me, would be Enigma.  Good Bye…………………………………………...

Birth Order Theory!!!!

      Well since I am the youngest out of my family, I do not agree with these findings because I am not that social, I'm not laid back I'm pretty aggressive at times. I am comical/ entertaining at times. I am conventional, I have a lot of expectations for myself. I take a lot of risks thus most of the time I always get hurt in the process of entertaining myself, in which brings me joy knowing that I have a weird sense of humor, or you can say a painful sense of humor, which totally sets me a said from my brothers and sister and father/mother authority figures.
       As it turns out my brother Adam is the middle child and me and  him get into strenuous arguments almost every time that we hang out, younger child of the family are most likely to rebel against the norm of family structure.
    The middle child is most likely going to be influential towards their younger siblings, if and when that doesn't work, they but heads, thus when siblings rivalry, they continuously fight amongst each other, thus making each other have new found hatred for one another.
   There's a point when sibling rivalry goes to a whole new level when it goes from normal to absolutely destructerous towards their well being. Some say that the oldest child gets all the attention, then the middle child gets neglected, then then youngest child gets more attention so still the middle child is neglected in the norm of the family structure this is completely normal. So the question that you got to ask yourself is whether are you oldest, middle, or the youngest and which norm do you believe, and which stand point will best suit you and your life social status.  Because I believe that I truly am not the social standard norm of the youngest birth order. Do I believe the youngest is more acceptable to be more risk taking? Is it true that the youngest is more social able? Is it true that the middle child is neglected from receiving attention from parents? Is it true that the oldest gets all if not most of the attention, from parents? truthfully to answer this question, yes it is most likely true with most families, because the oldest is most likely to become something important, the youngest is more of a rebel and social able, the middle child is more or less the child that tries to influence their siblings, and are most likely to be acceptable to receive less attention from their parents.

Am I a product of my Enviorment?

In all honest opinion I really don't think I am a product of my environment, because my environment isn't part of my social and lifeline structure. Its full of false faith and false security, in life there isn't safety there's no probable cause, but hey that's other peoples life not mine, their social preferences not mine. So as to say am I truly a product of my social environment, I say no I am not part of it. But to some people I am part of the social environment, but that's their ideal idea of my social life line neither nor will their apparent idea will ever change my life.

Nature vs. Nurture.

My opinion about nature and nurture, is that it doesn't really matter in how the child was raised, because in some way or other the middle child is set for life, due to the first child is threshed with already being born. The last child is most likely " become gay" due to if the mother have released a lot of hormones being released in the uterus and the womb.  Thus I certainly refuse to believe that nature vs. nurture is in any common sense.

Things I learned This Week!!

The things I learned this week, include things like, competition - two or more groups or people who oppose each other. only one can get what they want - competition can be passive and negative. business, schools are examples.
conflict - the deliberate attempt to control a person by force - has a few rules of conduct. examples includes legal disputes, wars, etc..
Things like that.
 Among other things I learned many things in U.S History, such as
American entered into the 20th century, middle class reformers addressed Manu social problems.
protect social welfare
promote moral improvement
create economic reform
foster efficiency
industrialization in the late 19th century was largely unregulated
employers felt little response.
some reformers felt that the answer to societies problems was personal behavior. the proposed such reforms as prohibition. groups wishing to ban alcohol. And how all those things revert into everyday life. In chemistry I learned that there's several valance electrons in element such as Neon, helium, propane, and ethane.                    These are some of the things I learned this week.

Love, Work, Death!!!

I think that it is hard for males to show the same compassion and love towards other males because of it’s not in their presences of nature. But for girls it is easy because of maternal love and care that they are hotwired with. So while we were watching "Tuesdays with Morrie" it showed that Mitch Albom (played by Hank Azaria) anyways it showed how one guy went from being a self-centered person and only cared about himself to an absolute caring person that shows love and feelings for Morrie. When Morrie told Mitch about his father and how his father never showed him the love that he needed after his mother passed on, when his father remarried he got the love that he needed from his step mother. 

 While Mitch was with Morrie he was working on a story and while he was working on this he learned things that struck him deep to realize that he had the most amazing person in his life and he was about to ruin it by being a jerk to her. So over the course of time he kept going back to see Morrie every Tuesday. To record what Morrie says to him. So Mitch Asks Morrie Questions and Morrie answer them, to Mitch Morrie is his coach, and to Morrie Mitch is his buddy. They were Tuesday people. But anyways all the while Mitch was going to see Morrie he kept thinking of ways to keep the "girl of his dreams" in his life. When Morrie mentioned that he was dying Mitch said "I don't want you to die". And Morrie said " I'm going to die whether I want to or not, but death isn't as bad is it seems. the way I look at , I pretend there's a bird on my shoulder and every morning I ask this little bird is today my time to go? Is it my time? And every time I realize it’s not my time to go. So that made Mitch feels better. Then Mitch had bought a ring for Jenine and wrote her a letter telling her how he felt about her and things he normally wouldn’t say to her.  Back at the airport Mitch is getting ready to get on the plane when Jenine walks up and hands him the ring in the box and says that she doesn’t have an answer yet. But anyone who can make change like that, well I want to meet him. This was work for Mitch and No matter how many times Mitch came, Morrie was happy to see him and they greeted each other with a hug and smile.

Thus when they got to Morrie’s home they had brought him some food, and sat and visited him. Then Morrie asked if he could hear Jenine sing to him and asked Mitch to leave the room. And when Mitch came back he saw that Morrie was tearing up because of Jenines beautiful voice. One day Mitch asked Morrie what would be a perfect day if he was given a whole day of perfect health. And Morrie responded with I would start off with a nice breakfast and lunch then I would walk down to the city park and greet my old dear friends and I would visit them then in the evening I would dance with all my dear friends, then when after all that is down with I would lay down and sleep peacefully, that would be my perfect day.  Then came the day when Unfortunately Morrie Passed away, but he died the way he wanted to die which was with his family and friends around him.